DEAR FUTURE HUSBAND,
First off.. what took you so long?!?!?!..
You know as a little girl.. I had this plan in my head.. I'd get married at 24 tops to the guy I would have been dating for say 3 years?... well I'm 21 now.. and I don't see u :( LOL
I'd call you "Habibi".. that's arabic for "my love/dear"... I'm sure you'd love it!!!!... you need to hear me say it.. so sexy ;)
You can call me whatever you want so far it is not "Iya___ " even when we have kids o.... uhhhh hells no!... O.o
I'm sure already know that I'm pretty special.. but some how you chose me!..
When you ask me if something's wrong and I say no.. tsk tsk pls don't believe me... keep asking.. You have to possess a special power that allows you to hear what I'm not saying
I have mood swings occasionally, so don't take it to heart when I don't wanna play.. It's not like I'm drifting.... I'm just not in the mood
If you have a huge problem with my hairnets and wrappers.. no problem.. I'd stay away from 'em so far you always looking super haat for me..... oh yah on that note.... please no "double standard" in our marriage o.... if it applies to me, it applies to you as well.. #period
See, I really hope I'd get along with your family.. that's the plan.. but this is reality and inlaws aren't always the nicest, so if any of your ppl disrespects me, pls don't just stand there looking clueless with you mouth open.. ha! --.--
I really hope you are not stingy.. that would really suck!!.. :/
It's really hard for me to let people in completely... since we'd be getting married I probably would have.. or be willing to.. so I beg you... please don't break me... coz I'd trust you and it's difficult for me to rebound when trust is broken
I hope you'd chip in and help me out with the house chores... honestly Habibi, you'd have to.. coz I'm a lazy bum sometimes....
Habibi, which kind of wife would you like me to be?
Wife #1 is The oppressed and vulnerable wife that doesn't dare voice her opinion because she's just a mere housewife that depends 100% on you.. and because you know you have the upper hand, u disrespect her, cheat on her what not... Her self esteem is on a neg.... The only goal she has in life is to take good care of you and keep you happy at all times... without ever complaining!!! (GONE ARE THOSE DAYS!!!)
Wife#2 is done w all the oppression and finally gathers the courage to stand up to you... she is The FRUSTRATED WIFE.. she can afford to do that cause she has a plan B.... probably some small business on the side or she might have been stealing from you and saving up for the rainy days.. she is not afraid of you anymore and is ready to up and leave if it comes down to it..
Wife#2 will rather be alone than put up with your madness.. hell, she is ready to beat the madness out of you!...
Wife#3 (The INTIMIDATING WIFE) The pic says it all... This is the 9-5 woman who is earning way more than you.. there's no point for you to even work cause she gat u and the fam... now you don't expect her to come back from a long day to cook and clean??.. yah the tables have turned.... whaaaat!!!!!!... This "wife of future" is so gonna happen.. think about it, nowadays, girls are more serious in school than guys.. and they are getting the better jobs these days.. Who run this Mutha.....?!?!?!
After all is said, I feel like all the cases are extreme.. I don't plan on being the oppressed housewife or the frustrated one or even the intimidating wife.. there has to be a balance somewhere right?..
I'd cook and clean, call you out when needed because I'm not afraid of you and since I'd be working as well as u, I'd need you to cut me some slacks and help me out once in a while w the cooking and things.... There, my dear, is your perfect wife!!! *thank me later*
I think I'm kinda a wussy when it comes to kids.. hope you'd help me not "SPARE THE ROD" for our children... when they come.. :)
See Habibi, I don't mind you interacting with other females and having female friends.. but for the love of God... Please know where to draw the line.. I'm sure I'd LOVE you so it will tear me apart if you ever cheated on me... oh yh.. and no second wives too That's coz I know you'd be Muslim... and some of y'all think it's ok.. but with US.. I'm telling you it's NOT!!!..
oh one more thing, I hope you'd never lay your hands on me.... hmmmm.. I'd kill you......I don't know what I'd do.. coz I'd be vulnerable... but really, I hope you remain the gentle man I agreed to marry and not turn into a beast over night :/
DIVORCE is not an option o.. we have to work it out.. so now that we haven't met.. you better test all the waters you need to.... cause when we married.. that's it.. don't worry I'd be here testing my waters too.... so far I end up with you...
Right about now, I'm not the best cook... you know the kind of food that blows your mind?.. yah that one.. I can't give you that..yet... but hey! I'm working on it.. hopefully by the time we get married.. I'd be good.. see Habibi, I have your interest at heart :p
I'd like for you to be a good father, best friend, brother, mentor all in one... you can do that right?
Habibi, I haven't met you yet but I LOVE YOU with the length, breadth and depth that my soul can reach....I'd be the very best I can and over look all our shortcomings....
Love Always,
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